only as our true selves can we feel truly loved

 A reminder for you—and your teen.

One of the most powerful truths we can teach our teens is this:
We can only feel truly loved when we’re being our true selves.

As parents, we want our kids to feel loved, safe, and accepted. But in a world full of pressure to perform, fit in, and meet expectations, our teens often end up hiding parts of themselves just to feel "good enough." And sometimes, if we’re honest, we unintentionally reinforce that pattern.

Maybe it’s in the way we celebrate their achievements more than their efforts. Or how we try to protect them from making mistakes by steering them toward what feels “safe.” It’s all well-intentioned—but it can send the message that love is tied to performance, behavior, or success.

And that leaves them asking a painful question:
“Would they still love me if they saw the real me?”

Here’s where it gets real: our teens are watching us. If we want them to embrace who they truly are, we have to be doing the same. When we show up authentically—owning our imperfections, speaking honestly, and leading with compassion—we create space for them to do the same.

The kind of love that truly changes our kids?
It’s the kind that meets them exactly where they are. Not when they get the grades. Not when they’re perfectly behaved. But now. As they are.

And it starts with us showing them what unconditional love looks like, not just saying the words, but living them.

If you’re ready to deepen the connection with your teen and help them feel truly seen and loved—not just for what they do, but for who they are—I’d love to support you.

👉 Click [here]  to schedule a free discovery session or reach out to me directly at carinrassiercoaching@gmail.com. 

Together, we can help your teen feel safe being their true self—and you feel confident leading with yours. 💛